Win People To Your Own Way of Thinking

Principle 1

The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it

Principle 2

Show respect for the other person’s opinions. Never say, ‘you are wrong’

Principle 3

If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically

Principle 4

Begin in a friendly way

Principle 5

Get the other person saying ‘yes’ immediately

Principle 6

Let the other person do a great deal of the talking

Principle 7

Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers

Principle 8

Try honesly to see things from the other person’s point of view

Principle 9

Be sympathetic with the other person’s ideas and desires

Principle 10

Appeal to the nobler motives

Principle 11

Dramatize your ideas

Principle 12

Throw down a challenge

6 Responses to “Win People To Your Own Way of Thinking”
  1. lizii says:

    That gives me a lot of rules, but really no technique :P

    • henrypoong says:


      It has been a pleasure having you here:)

      Hopefully the following questions could help clear the air for you:)

      First of all, do you agree that there are cultural differences between the east and the west?

      Secondly, do you agree that most books on communication skills originated from the

      Thirdly, how relevent do you think these books are to the eastern society?

      After reading a number of books of such genre, i personally feel that one size fits all technique is a myth.

      It is just my personal thought.But from reading the same book, people do arrive at different conclusions;)

      Thanks for reading!!

      • jamesesz says:

        It depends on how you view it..Einstein’s theory of ‘relativity’ is based on two absolute principles.

        1. The laws of physics are the same for two individuals regardless of their state of motion.

        2. For all observers, the speed of light remains the same.

        Therefore some principles or philosophy is valid only when you state the necessary conditions are met.

        Generally, if a principle/philosophy is correct on average, it should be worth practicing it….

        For example, frown and you frown alone. Smile and the whole world smiles with you!

      • jamesesz says:

        Grammar mistake: some principles and philosophies ‘are’ valid

  2. Doraz says:

    Principle 6

    Let the other person do a great deal of the talking

    This was tough, but I did learn to do it! It does make a difference! :)

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