Principles of Conversation

Mend your speech a little, lest you mar your fortunes.
~ Shakespeare, King Lear

Commonly known Principles:


  • Smile and the whole world smiles with you. BE CHEERFUL!

Speak clearly

  • Pronounce your words clearly! And make sure that people understand what you are really saying.

Speak easily but not too much

  • Be mindful of your pace and rhythm. Pause when necessary.

Regulate the quality of your voice

  • This includes paying attention to your tone, pitch, volume.

Be courteous

  • This includes sincere good manners. Do not interrupt people when it is their turn to talk.

Deal seriously with serious matters and gracefully with casual ones

  • Try not to joke about things that are important to other people. It is just bad taste. Similarly, one should not be serious when another person is telling a joke! It’s bad manners!

Never ever criticise people behind their backs

  • If you can criticise people behind their backs, what is stopping you from criticising your listeners behind their backs?! Do not do onto others what you do not want others to do onto you!

Do not talk about yourself

  • No one in reality likes a narcissist except the narcissist himself.

Never ever lose your temper

  • To lose your temper during a casual conversation is the mark of an uncivilised human!

Equally important but uncommonly known Principles:

Remember people’s names

  • Nothing sounds sweeter to a person’s ears than his own name.

Be a good listener

  • Alternation between participants in a conversation is important. Do not seek to dominate and always give other people a chance to talk.

Talk in terms of the other person’s interest

  • The right way to sustain a conversation is to talk about the things that other people are interested in!

Make the other person feel important

  • Sincere flattery is always welcomed. Besides that, show respect to a person regardless of who or what he is.

Quick Wit

  • Great Brilliance is so rare. However, being well read and having a good memory would surely help!

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